... the future father of my children;

By Capri Thomas - August 29, 2012

There was a time, about a year ago, this time… when Drew watched me dice strawberries and bananas for chocolate fondue and chocolate dipped bananas the next day, it was about his second time he’d ever seen her and we were getting ready for her 3^rd birthday party.

The conversation played out like this:

Aubrey: Miss. Apee, Can I have some strawberries

Capri: Yes you may, (gives her 3 strawberries) take them to your table babygirl

Aubrey: (leaves, and comes back about 2 minutes later with babydoll in hand) those were sooo yoummy… can I have more please?

Capri: Yes you may… would you like 3 more?

Aubrey:Yes!

Capri: would it be even better if I gave your baby 3 too, so you could both eat them?

Aubrey: Yes, my baby would love that, she loves strawberries!

… On this day, little to my knowledge. Drew’d mentally promised himself, he knew at that moment, irregardless if we’d been dating for only four months… He wanted what he just saw to re-occur years from now, with his own children, and myself as their mother.

At the time, I’d put some thought into it… and thought… He’s never even been around kids… I mean prior to us dating, his childcare exposure had been null…. I mean so minimal he had to be trained multiple times on how to hold a baby, over and over and over again. I never figured I’d marry someone without childcare experience… I needed to find someone who loved children equally as much as I did… BUT also was willing to wait for them because he knew the sacrifices, time, finances, and effort it takes to raise one, Most couples have the “let’s make a baby, let’s have a baby, let’s raise a child” part down… but the mental, physical, emotional, financial aspect goes missing… and on that day, I promised myself… Drew would at least If nothing, know of the effort it takes to raising a child… and boy oh boy has he learned.

I am so thankful to have a man in my life who listens to my ideas and mentions. I am so thankful he takes into account the personal things that need to occur before we decide to raise a family… sometime much closer or beyond 2017! But I must say… Drew I admire the time, strength, patience, and effort you’ve put into becoming such an aspiring future dad. I am constantly in shock of you and your relationship with the little ones, time and time again you surprise me with your cute qwerks, laughs, and jokes but I can’t wait to see what the future holds… I know we won’t be perfect… and though we know a lot, we’re far from perfect… though as amateurs, we’ve had more practice than any couple I know and I’m sure we’ll make a great team!